- "What can I do?"
- "Someone else can worry about helping. I have enough to do!"
- "I can't think of what to do?"
We sometimes hear these types of comments perhaps from someone we live with, or work with, when a crisis arises.
A crisis does not have to arise for you to lend a hand.
Someone you know could feel comfort from your use of a kind word, an acknowledgement of what they are experiencing in their life at that point in time. If they are willing and receptive, then you can always extend a suggestion of help. Present an idea for a solution to an issue that is of concern for them -if they are open to it, and welcome your input.
Most of us lead busy, productive and full lives, with the endless list of things to do each day. Taking on an extra task, or act of kindness for someone else can appear to take up extra time in our time-stretched lives.
That extra minute or two exchanging a comment, smile, or help for someone you meet in your day, can actually uplift your own day, in ways you might never imagine. You might find yourself reflecting on that interaction later in your day, and it lightens your mood. You feel good.
The person you interacted with might reflect on how they could in turn help someone else in their day. They mention your actions to their family, perhaps their friends and so it goes on.
Your acts of kindness really do have a ripple effect.
Many of us don't want to ask for help from others- be it family or friends.
We don't want to impose. We don't want to be a bother. We want to appear to be resilient. While all these points are valid, there are times we do need to reach out to other people for extra support and help.
We know how good it feels to help. So perhaps it actually enables other people to feel good by helping us too? (Within reason) asking for help is a sign of strength.
When you see someone in need.
-Do you proceed to act from instinct?
-Do you feel a desire to help, out of love for another human being?
-Do you act from a sense of duty?
Does it really matter what your impetus is for kindness? Your result is the same. You have assisted someone in need. They will benefit.
You never really know how your acts of kindness play out around the world. But they do.
There might be some people who feel that someone else can do the work to fix things, or lend a hand when and where needed. Lack of time, lack of spare money, and a host of other reasons can be explained as to why someone can't assist someone else. No matter how you help, your help is generally appreciated. Our world benefits greatly from acts of kindness.
The energy of kindness is strong. Even though it can't be seen it can be felt.
The most ripple effects of kindness often occur after acts of discomfort and violence in our world.
But the best type of kindness is the ones that occur daily and often go unnoticed by the media, and that is the best kind of kindness!
There are often other people around you seeing your acts of kindness done with humility and modesty. They take those images and memories into their own world. They may be inspired to do acts of kindness to those they come into contact with from then on as well. So you really have a wide effect on other people and you might not even know it.
Your acts of kindness really do make a difference -and have an amazing ripple effect!
Author, Loving Me -How to Love and Cherish Yourself"